Overcome your fears in 2013 by guest blogger Bonnie Kirkham

Fear is probably one of the biggest barriers in achievement. I recently posted about fear on my personal blog.

I wrote: “I’m afraid.
I’m afraid of so many things it could hold me back if I let it.
I’m afraid of not progressing.
I’m afraid of hurting those that are closest to me.
I’m afraid of doing the wrong thing.
I’m afraid of finishing school (but I don’t want stay in school either).
I’m afraid of waking up and finding a spider in my bed.
I’m afraid of falling in love and waking up to find I changed my mind.
I’m afraid of losing those I love too soon.
I’m afraid of missed opportunities.
I’m afraid of depression and what it can do.
I’m afraid of never doing good enough.
I’m afraid of finding a job after college.
I’m afraid of pursuing the things I love most.
I’m afraid of laziness.
I’m afraid of giving up.
Which is why I won’t.”

The crazy thing about this was that same day I looked at two of my friends’ blogs and they had posted about fear too. It was then I was reminded I am not alone in this. We all have fears and worries, so somehow we can bond over that. Maybe we can help each other in our different fears. I am afraid of spiders, so I find someone who isn’t afraid of spiders to get rid of them for me. Maybe someone who isn’t afraid of job interviews can help someone who is. In my opinion, the point of strengths is to strengthen others and the point of weaknesses is to let those be strengthened. So we can all help each other in this.

If you have a moment go to this site www.itsnotyourfault.tv and check out what Steve Shenk is doing to help us overcome fear and live with more faith in 2013. You can also watch the It’s Not Your Fault Talk Show for some valuable information each week on YouTube.

Overcome Setbacks and Leap into 2013 by Haley Bateman

Some people are “dare devils.” I am not. Since I was first able to walk, one word has adequately captured my personality: cautious. My sister, who is four years younger than me, is quite the opposite. She’s uninhibited, rarely meeting a stranger or an intimidating situation. Meanwhile, I’ve always been the analyzer—cautious to make a mistake or overstep boundaries.

Recently, I read an article that’s changing my outlook on things. In fact, it’s inspired me to rethink my nature and look for ways to overcome certain setbacks. The article is entitled “5 Ways to Overcome Your Fears,” and the secret to overcoming fear surprised me: It isn’t fearlessness, but admitting what scares you.

One of the ways that the article recommends we overcome fear is by telling a story. For instance, I have an irrational fear of flying—again, the cautious, worst-case-scenario-me talking. Instead of squirming in my seat and imagining all of the horrible things that could bring down the plane, I should instead tell myself a story. I could say, “The engines start; the flight attendants do a final check; the plane taxis; we take off.” Studies show that this method can actually calm the amygdala in the brain—an area associated with fear—and fuel the area linked to self-control.

The article outlines another important method for overcoming fear through tweaking your point of view and the way that you describe a situation. Point of view and vocabulary play a vital role in the way that we see a situation. I wouldn’t say I’m a “glass half full kind” of person, but I do tend to imagine the worst outcomes. When I go for an interview, for instance, my mind races with images of everything that could possibly go wrong. When I get the job, my mind races with all of the ways I might lose the job.

By tweaking my point of view and rearranging the way that I talk about these possible blunders, I can completely transform my worries into something positive. Instead of worrying about the possibility of failure, I can think about the opportunity for triumph. A job interview then becomes a chance to display professionalism. Getting a job becomes an opportunity to show a skill set. A speech becomes an occasion to talk to people. The opportunities really are limitless.

This method is just one of many that can help people to admit and overcome their fears. And what better time to hurdle past these setbacks than the start of a new year? This January, I may not be ready to jump out of a plane or hike the Himalayas, but I do feel ready to leap into 2013, a little less cautious. Admitting my setbacks can help me overcome them and do things I never thought I’d have the courage to do.

Chin Up! Guest post by Bonnie Kirkham

I believe in never giving up.

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My dad loves to share a story that highlights this little stubborn streak in me:

When I was a little girl, still in a car seat, we were driving somewhere as a family. I was in my car seat, but apparently saw it more as a prison, so was eager to get out. So I asked my dad to get me out. We were still driving, so naturally, he said “no.” I asked my mom. She said no. Then I proceeded to ask my four older siblings, one by one, until I ran out of people to ask. They all said no. I probably threw a tantrum after that, but my dad never tells me that part.

Besides being a cute little anecdote, this story highlights a prominent personality characteristic of mine that I’ve been trying put to good use my entire life.

Many of us have goals – things we want to achieve, others we want to quit – and these goals take hard work. There are barriers that pop up, moments of weakness, even, that may hold us back.

As I’ve tried to conquer various goals in my life, I’ve learned a couple important guiding principles:

1. Be independent: Set the goals you want to achieve, not what others want for you.
2. Find support: These two may contradict each other, but once you’ve decided what you want to work towards, improvement grows as you are accountable to someone else.
3. Learn to say “no”: Back when I was training for a race, I had a pretty tight schedule and was exhausted by 10:00 pm. Sometimes friends would invite me to do things, which most of the time I enjoy, but during this time I simply didn’t have the energy nor want to. So I learned to politely decline. I felt independent, not obligated to anyone, and happy. And it helped me have the strength to continue working towards my goal.
4. Keep trying: We fall short. Everyone does. So instead of spending time beating yourself up about it, just move on and try again.

Returning to my story, obviously I did not get out of my car seat, so in this case, I did not get what I want. It is pretty apparent that it’s a good thing I didn’t get what I want in this scenario. So remember that if we don’t necessarily achieve things in the way we want to, that’s not always a bad thing.

Almost a year ago I applied for a job I wanted more than anything and thought I was well prepared for. I didn’t get this job, but one year later I have had new opportunities that have better prepared me for what I want to do.

So my last shout out to all the goal makers out there is “Keep your chin up.”

From Night Owl to Early Bird! It’s Not Your Fault Guest Blog Series by Haley Bateman

After I started my first full-time job, I noticed that the days got a lot shorter and the mornings got earlier each day. This realization was not a result of fewer hours in the day—but instead, an increased desire to hit the pillow much earlier and a need to wake up earlier each morning. In fact, the transition from a night owl student to an early bird full-time worker was hard for me. With a career, I suddenly coveted my sleep. I needed sleep and found myself even wanting to turn out the lights as early as 9 pm.

This November, I am not the only American thinking about the benefits of better sleep. November is National Sleep Comfort Month and to find out more about sleep health, Americans can visit the National Sleep Foundation, an American independent non-profit organization that seeks to improve public health and safety by achieving understanding of sleep health and sleep disorders. In an article entitled “Healthy Sleep Tips,” the National Sleep Foundation shares how to get better shuteye.

First, people should maintain a regular bed and wake time, even on the weekends. After a stressful forty-hour workweek, I struggle to get up when the alarm rings on Saturday morning. But according to the National Sleep Foundation, my schedule is crucial. In fact, our sleep and wake cycles are regulated by an internal clock known as a “circadian clock” that helps us to maintain balance. By sleeping in on Saturdays, I may feel as though I’m rejuvenating myself after a long week. But in reality, I’m throwing off my internal regulator.

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Additionally, the Foundation recommends that people create a “sleep-conducive environment.” While the temptation may be high to fall asleep with a noisy TV on, people should, instead, establish regular conditions that include a cool, dark, quiet sleep environment that is free from interruptions. For people with noisy air units or other unavoidable nighttime noises such as snoring spouses, earplugs and “white noise” humidifiers can be very valuable purchases.

But a healthy environment and a routine schedule are not always enough when it comes to precious sleep. In fact, diet and exercise play a crucial role, as well. Researchers recommend that people avoid eating two to three hours before bedtime. Research shows that eating or drinking before bed can make for a restless night due to discomfort and other side effects such as heath burn. Also, researchers advise people to avoid drinking too many liquids right before going to sleep because these liquids can cause people to wake up throughout the night to go to the bathroom.

And finally—exercise. Physical activity has long been linked to a better night’s sleep. But too much exercise right before bedtime can be detrimental to sleep. Research shows that the human body can take as much as six hours to cool in temperature after a strenuous workout. Exercise certainly leads to more relaxed sleep, but people should avoid saving their workout for half an hour before bedtime.

Today, I still covet my sleep. I still look forward, with eager anticipation, to turning my lights out and letting my head hit the pillow. But after studying more about sleep health this November, I now have a great appreciation for the research that can drastically change the way I sleep and the way other Americans rest at night. I’ve learned that it’s all right to fall asleep at 9 pm. But I have to take other important factors into consideration in order to keep my body healthy and to get the best sleep I possibly can.

For more information, visit http://www.sleepfoundation.org/.

About the It’s Not Your Fault Sponsors:

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Flown the coop for good or off for a ride on a summer breeze?

They say a picture is worth a thousand words. I wonder what this picture says to you?

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About Steve Shenk:
Steve Shenk is a philosopher, educator, noted food expert, and 30-year entrepreneur. As a voice of reason on matters of relationships, happiness and prosperity, Steve’s book, It’s Not Your Fault, delves into his philosophies of life and relationships. It’s Not Your Fault was written to share the secrets to finding the magnificence within each of us. The book is discussed on his weekly radio/Internet TV talk show of the same name. He is also a frequent guest of some of America’s favorite talk show programs.

Steve feels that every individual desperately needs to know how to take control of their lives, not only to survive, but to prosper and enjoy fulfilling relationships. In a time when it seems all life is crashing down around each of us, Steve shares his insights with the goal of helping each and every one of us to realize the magnificence and grandeur of who we are.

Raised by a father who was virtually an “animal whisperer,” horses have been a part of his life since he started riding at age three. Steve has a sense and a love for animals that verges on extraordinary. In fact, his dog, Lexi, joins him at the office every day. www.steveshenk.me.

Steve Shenk storable food industry experts discusses the eFoodsDirect solution

eFoodsDirect is focused on helping families meet dietary needs and offers packages labeled with icons designating meals that meet specific dietary requirements. All eFoodsDirect meals are vegetarian, kosher, irradiation-free, have no added MSG, have no hydrogenated oils, and are not genetically modified (Non-GMO). Icons designate eFoodsDirect options that are lactose-free, gluten-free, soy-free, and much more.

Steve Shenk and Barbara Rossberg, food reserve experts and founders of eFoodsDirect, introduced their the gourmet storable food company and meals to industry editors, reporters and broadcast media at the Cooking and Entertaining Editor Showcase last week in Manhatten.

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eFoodsDirect offers a wide array of gourmet storable meals that include family favorites like Beef Stroganoff, Cheesy Chicken Rice Casserole, White Cheddar Pasta, Almond Coconut Granola and many other mouth-watering choices. eFoodsDirect meals are made with quality ingredients that appeal to taste and health, and are blended and packed fresh to provide delicious meals that taste the same today as they will in 25 years.

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efoodsdirect

eFoodsDirect is focused on helping families meet dietary needs and offers packages labeled with icons designating meals that meet specific dietary requirements. All eFoodsDirect meals are vegetarian, kosher, irradiation-free, have no added MSG, have no hydrogenated oils, and are not genetically modified (Non-GMO). Icons designate eFoodsDirect options that are lactose-free, gluten-free, soy-free, and much more.

About eFoodsDirect:
eFoodsDirect is a gourmet storable food company, founded by food-reserve experts Steve Shenk and Barbara Rossberg, whose mission is to help all American families have healthy, easy-to-fix, affordable, delicious meals that are as good tonight as they will be in 25 years. These are quality (not backpacker style) meals that come in delicious family favorites like Beef Stroganoff, White Cheddar Pasta, Corn Chowder and many others. Meals are designed with the cleanest and safest ingredients –no hydrogenated oils, no GMO, and no added MSG. To learn about this great food visit http://www.efoodsdirect.com [http://www.efoodsdirect.com __title__ ].

Editor’s Showcase a Success for Food Industry Expert Steve Shenk and Barbara Rossberg

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Steve Shenk and Barbara Rossberg, food reserve experts and founders of eFoodsDirect, introduced their the gourmet storable food company and meals to industry editors, reporters and broadcast media at the Cooking and Entertaining Editor Showcase last week in Manhatten.

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babs rossberg

eFoodsDirect offers a wide array of gourmet storable meals that include family favorites like Beef Stroganoff, Cheesy Chicken Rice Casserole, White Cheddar Pasta, Almond Coconut Granola and many other mouth-watering choices. eFoodsDirect meals are made with quality ingredients that appeal to taste and health, and are blended and packed fresh to provide delicious meals that taste the same today as they will in 25 years.

eFoods Direct offers delicious family meals that are healthy — non GMO and sourced from clean farms — and save you 50% on your grocery budget. You can make healthy meals your family will love in 15 minutes!

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eFoodsDirect is focused on helping families meet dietary needs and offers packages labeled with icons designating meals that meet specific dietary requirements. All eFoodsDirect meals are vegetarian, kosher, irradiation-free, have no added MSG, have no hydrogenated oils, and are not genetically modified (Non-GMO). Icons designate eFoodsDirect options that are lactose-free, gluten-free, soy-free, and much more.

About eFoodsDirect:
eFoodsDirect is a gourmet storable food company, founded by food-reserve experts Steve Shenk and Barbara Rossberg, whose mission is to help all American families have healthy, easy-to-fix, affordable, delicious meals that are as good tonight as they will be in 25 years. These are quality (not backpacker style) meals that come in delicious family favorites like Beef Stroganoff, White Cheddar Pasta, Corn Chowder and many others. Meals are designed with the cleanest and safest ingredients –no hydrogenated oils, no GMO, and no added MSG. To learn about this great food visit http://www.efoodsdirect.com [http://www.efoodsdirect.com __title__ ].

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